When was the last time you disconnected? I mean, truly disconnected. No TV, no internet, no phone, no social platforms, no radio – no distractions. I recently tried jus that. Unplugged. Unconnected. Undisturbed. But unproductive is what I really thought.
The #solitudechallenge was just that – a challenge. I spent 30 minutes with no technology and no distractions in my basement. At first, I wasn’t sure what to do. Should I close my eyes and try to meditate? If I did that I would probably fall asleep. Can I read a book? Surely, that can’t be a part of the challenge – as I proceed to put down some boring business book from my graduate degree.
I can hear my husband and my baby playing upstairs. Daddy is singing a song, probably trying to get baby to eat, and I can hear my sweet boy giggling. There may be nothing better than that sound.
Back on track…Solitude.
This is a piece of cake, I think to myself. See, I spend a lot of time commuting to work – around 1.5 hours a day – and in my time driving, I tend to drown out the music and begin really reflecting on things. As the minutes passed, I realized that my #SolitudeChallenge was very similar to the time I have in the car.
I started by thinking about my job – what meetings I had tomorrow, what deliverables I had to get to my clients, what did I need to organize etc. Once I got past that, my thoughts went deeper. They turned to this blog. What content can I create, will I keep writing, what do I want to achieve and how will I get there. And the more and more time went on, the deeper and deeper my thoughts got – how many kids will we have, when will that be, where will we live etc.
I found that my thoughts went from daily and tactical, to high-level and more strategic. And unlike my commute to work, where I do often get distracted by a phone call or my favourite song on the radio, this exercise gave me a full 30 minutes to think.
After I got through my thoughts, I started to write. The first thoughts that popped into my head.
Here is what was left on my paper at the end of my challenge (I spared you from my awful handwriting and opted to type them instead of an image):
- Be happy
- Be healthy
- Be fit
- Be successful
- Be loving and loved
- Be a role model to Jasper
- Write down your goals and reflect on them often
- Have dessert at least once a week – that you bake yourself!
- Travel when you can
- Drink lots of wine
And when I was done, I felt more connected than I was before I started.